The Misadventures of Quinxy truths, lies, and everything in between!


Don’t Invoke the Founding Fathers To Win An Argument

Often politicians from both parties invoke the founding fathers when engaged in modern political debates, and to my ears it always sounds grossly myopic.  Just today the republican Gary Johnson invoked the founding fathers in his refusal to go along with the majority of his party in pledging to oppose gay marriage rights.  Included in his rejection was the phrase, "The freedoms that our forefather­s fought for in this country are sacred and must be preserved.­"  And while that sounds on the surface like a fantastic reference to the founding fathers, it rings entirely hollow.

The founding fathers did not see women as equals, did not see black people as equals (discriminated against the free and kept the slaves in bondage), nor did they see people of various other nations as equals.  I find it impossible to believe, therefore, that men so willing to restrict the rights of others would have been in support of gay marriage; they would certainly not have considered that to be a right they had been fighting for.  I'd even go out on a limb so far as to say it seems far more probable that many of those esteemed men have abandoned the revolution had they been told that their rebellion would ultimately lead to interracial marriage, homosexual marriage, and women having the same rights as men.   So let's not invoke their names to support causes with which they never aligned themselves, nor imagine them to be more high minded than they actually were.  They did a very good thing in founding a nation with pretty words that took on prettier additional meanings over time, they should be given full credit for that, but for nothing more.

^ Quinxy


Hyphenated Last Names

If you're about to be married and one or both of you lovely people  engaged in coupledom is considering merging your last names into one hyphenated monstrosity, I beg you, don't!  It's a stupid idea.

Whatever beauty your last name may have had is utterly lost in the union of the two, and this brilliant system you've come up with is woefully short sighted, as it doesn't scale.  Are your children going to inherit your hyphenated last name?  What if they end up meeting some lovely person who is no more a fan of giving up their last name than you or your spouse was?  Then they'll add on yet more hyphenated last names?

Be decisive, be bold.  Keep your original last names, pick the better of the last names, or make up a brand new and interesting last name you both will like (that will not harm your children), but whatever you do, don't hyphenate.